Father Refuses to Kick Out Teenage Bio Kids Despite Demands from New Wife, She Accuses Them of Causing Tension with Her Own Small Children: 'Send them away for good!'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Dec 29, 2024 5:00 PM EST

Welcome, gossiping goddesses. We've all heard of the Wicked Stepmother trope. While the archetype was solidified in the Western cultural zeitgeist by Disney's Cinderella, examples of the trope date back centuries before. Russian folktale "Vasilisa the Beautiful" kicks off with an evil stepmom forcing her stepdaughter to brave a winter storm to find firewood, essentially dooming her with an impossible task. On the other side of the Earth, the Japanese tell the tale of "The Mirror of Matsuyama." In this story, the wicked stepmother attempts to prevent the protagonist from contacting her real mother with an enchanted mirror. 

In reality, most stepmoms do not fit this ancient trope, but unfortunately it exists for a reason. In our story today, a wicked woman woman demands that her husband kick his own, biological kids out of their house. She cites the fact that she is unable to handle the dynamic between his kids and her own, but the truth is that she never intended to be a stepmother for long term. Get all the details by scrolling down. 

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  • 01
    "I know there are some things you can't take back, but at this point I almost mean it. I would hate to deal with another divorce, but Amanda has been so terrible to my older kids the past few weeks I honestly feel like she's become a different person.
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    r/AITAH u/purpose_of_dune • 1d AITAH for telling my wife she can leave because I'm not kicking my older kids out??
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    Hey Reddit. I (43m) have been with to my current wife Amanda (42f) for the past six years and we have two daughters (Becca 4f and Eliza 2f) together while I have 2 kids from my previous marriage Liam (17m) and Sage (15f). The divorce was less than amicable and since my ex wife had more money and a better paying job she was awarded primary custody despite me fighting it. For the last 8 years I've had my older kids every other weekend and on Wednesdays.
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    He had to fight for his right to see these kids, and now his new wife wants him to throw all that effort away.

  • 04
    A few weeks ago my older kids asked if they could live with us full-time due to issues with their stepdad. Liam especially had come to blows with him a few times and even their mother thought it would be for the best. I did talk to my wife about it and I know she wasn't happy as she feels uncomfortable around my older kids, although this is something she neglected to tell me until we had our first child together.
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    She'll say anything to push his 'old family' out of the picture.

  • 05
    Things since Liam and Sage moved in have been hard and as much as I'd love to get some family therapy my wife is against it and we're on a waiting list. Before when my kids would come over my wife would take our daughters to her parents a lot to 'give us space' even though I never asked for it.
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    It sounds like she made every effort to distance herself and her children from his family.

  • 06
    Now don't get me wrong, I'm sure being a stepparent is difficult but my kids are really good kids. They have straight As, lots of friends, play sports, and are incredibly respectful. I know I'm biased but people go out of their way to tell me these things! So it has been terrible watching Amanda nitpick everything they do. Almost as if she's waiting for them to slip up so she can send them back to their moms. We had already gotten into an argument over the holidays due to her trying to push them
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    This woman is the reason the Evil Stepmother trope was born.

  • 07
    Our older daughter Becca is going through a biting phase. Her school wants her to get OT and I've been working with our insurance since Amanda doesn't like the one at the school but as always it seems like there's an endless waitlist.
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    So obviously the house is tense and we've all been walking on eggshells. Then yesterday morning when I was making us some breakfast we heard a scream and Becca came into the kitchen crying and saying that Sage hit her. Amanda ran into the den where Liam and Sage were and started screaming at them to leave. She was obviously p ed but Sage told her she was sorry, she had been done with the tv so had changed it to one of the girls' shows and Becca got excited and bit her. She said she didn't mean t
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    Things continued escalating and our girls were crying and Amanda screamed at both of my older kids to leave. Sage told her she would so she could calm down and that p ed Amanda off more. Liam and Sage left for a friends and ended up spending the night there.
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    So for the past day Amanda has been on one saying I needed to pack their things and send them back to my ex-wife's permanently. I can't keep dealing with this BS. I told her this morning that it was an accident and she needed to let it go but she's refusing, even threatening to call the police (?). She said she could never be comfortable with her babies around Sage anymore and that she didn't feel safe. I laughed because Amanda herself once hit Becca for biting her! She ended up taking the girls
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    My parents came over and basically told me I wasn't wrong but shouldn't have said she should leave. I know there are some things you can take back but at this point I almost mean it. I would hate to deal with another divorce but Amanda has been so terrible to my older kids the past few weeks I honestly feel like she's become a different person.
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    Edit just to clarify some things: when we had every other weekend plus Wednesday custody my wife would take the girls to her parents on Wednesday only, and I would take the youngest to dinner. Before we had kids she'd go to dinner but our girls aren't the best at restaurants. She would be here on weekends.
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    Sage has gone from apologetic to fully devastated about this. She offered to go back to her moms as long as Liam didn't have to. I told her that would never be necessary. She did not mean to hit her sister, and Becca was incredibly upset about biting her. We are working on it. but we are a single- income family and I can't afford an OT outside of my insurance. I am probably going to utilize the schools. OT, though despite what Amanda said.
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    Also our youngest was not planned but things seemed to be getting better so we were excited. I did get a vasectomy after that but I love all my children. 11.7k ✓ D 4,072 5 ☑
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    merishore25 • 1d NTA. This woman doesn't want your children in the family. You do not have a choice at this point. Your wife is against therapy and doesn't want to work through this. Your older children must be so confused and feel the constant rejection from your wife, let alone their mother. One question I have is why did your wife always feel uncomfortable. What did they do specifically. If nothing, she just doesn't want a blended family. Reply 3.2k
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    purpose_of_dune OP. 1d When we first got together she was great to them. It was after we had our first daughter that she got cold towards them. She tells me it's unfair to have to live with kids that aren't hers and has told me I need to prioritize our family. It's more than just frustrating ... 2.6k
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    writing_mm_romance . 1d I get the feeling that your wife was expecting you'd move on from your older kids once you and she had your children together. That they would be your new family and you'd just forget the first one. If she'd succeeded you would have become the divorced dad trope that I LOATHE reading about on Reddit. She underestimated your commitment to your children, she expected you to choose her. It's important to show all four of your kids that they'll be in your top priorities alway
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    purpose_of_dune OP. 1d I told her upfront it would never happen. She brought up having them move out at 18 and I told her that was trashy and loser parent behavior and she flipped out at me. I will never abandon my kids 31 10.4k ♡
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    She barely sees these kids as humans; they're just walking nuisances and reminders that her husband had a life before he met her.

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    BlueGreen 1956 1d NTA Amanda needs to go. It's a shame you share kids with her, but I would never trust her again. ← Reply 5.2k
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    xmowx. 1d Yeah, at this point, it would be unfair to force the kids to live with Amanda. She made the atmosphere in OP's house toxic; living in such an environment would not be healthy for the kids. 1.8k
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    OneChocolate7248 • 1d NTA - as a stepmom, I hate people like your wife. She's the type that gives us a bad name. She needs to leave. Protect your children. Reply 11.9k
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    NONEOFURBIZZ • 1d She conveniently waited until she had her own kid to show who she really was. She is not a good person. 1 1.1k
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  • 23
    Nonby_Gremlin • 1d NTA but make sure you talk with your older kids about how much you do love and want them. I hate that both their stepparents are being awful. Not having a safe home as a kid can be really damaging (ask me how I know.) If your wife is unwilling to do therapy/mediation then she needs to understand that WILL result in divorce. ← Reply 431
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    There really is no other alternative at this point.

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